Onward to Minneapolis!!!

Hello, friends! 

Last week, on account of parent-teacher conferences (the kids are doing great in school, by the way), we had a 4 day weekend. We decided that the best way to spend that time was to head to Minneapolis to visit Megan's sister and her family. We hadn't been back to Minneapolis in a while (we're pretty sure that Megan was pregnant with Jonah when we last visited) so we were long past due.

Friends, when I tell you that we had a trip, we had a trip! Here are a few highlights: 

- Visiting with ministry partners, both on the way into Minneapolis, on our way our of Minneapolis, and even while we were in Minneapolis, while my sister-in-law's kids were still in school. Did we get photos with any of them? Of course not! We were having too much fun. =0). 

- Seeing some friends from college who live in the area. Did I get a photo of that one? You betcha! #GoBears 

- Visiting Minnesota's largest candy shop and the site of the world's largest jigsaw puzzle, according to the Guinness Book of World Records. 

- There was family fun too! We made dumplings together and the kids got to ride around the neighborhood, courtesy of my brother-in-law's one wheel. 

- Did I mention that Phoebe came with us? Did I mention that she got sick because she ate a bunch of stuff underneath our car seats while on the way there? Did I mention that we took a nap together and it was glorious?! Because all those things happened! 

- Of course, let's also mention that we got to visit Megan's old stomping grounds at Minnesota State. Her old dorm is now a parking lot, but the clock tower is still there! #GoMavs

- We also took some family photos, but you'll just have to wait for our Christmas card before you see those... =0). 

All in all, it was a great trip. Everyone had fun, everyone was well (enough) behaved, and it was good to see family. We'll be sure to head out there again before another 5 years passes. 

Have an excellent day! 

~Adam 

Adventures in Solo Parenting!

Hello, friends! 

This past week, Megan was in St. Louis leading our new staff cohort in a training on scriptural engagement. Besides being slightly jealous that she got to eat all the delicious things that St. Louis has to offer (she declined to bring me back any White Castle...) it was going to be another adventure in solo parenting! 

Solo parenting isn't anything new to either of us. Sometimes she goes on trips and sometimes I go on trips. The one thing that made this adventure extra exciting was that this was the first time either of us would be solo parenting with a dog (and a tortoise!). This would also be the first time since JoJo started pre-school. 

Honestly, those two facts were big changes. Usually, it'd be a situation where we would pay for an extra day or two at daycare, then I'd drop everyone off in the morning, work all day, then pick everyone up and do the dinner/playtime/bedtime routine. But, since JoJo is in preschool in the morning, we can't do daycare for just the afternoon. Added to that, since I had to let Phoebe out to go to the bathroom every few hours, I couldn't just be out all day. It was a different experience indeed! Here's how it broke down: 

Monday: 

- 8am: Head out and do some Sabbath stuff before Megan heads to the airport

- 10am: Get back to the house to say goodbye to Megan

- 11:30am: Pick up JoJo, go get lunch, and head home to let out Phoebe

- 2pm: Take Phoebe (with JoJo) for a walk

- 2:30pm: Take JoJo to Costco to pick up some groceries

- 3:30pm: Get a call from Megan that Thaliea threw up and needs to come home

- 3:50pm: Pick up Thaliea and Ezra from school

- 4pm: Get home, cook dinner, get Ezra to do his homework, get Thaliea to bed, make sure JoJo is entertained, and let out Phoebe

- 5pm: Eat dinner and playing outside with the boys

- 7pm: Bedtime routine and try to get everyone in bed by 8

Tuesday:

- 6:30am: Wake up to feed Phoebe and find out that she pooped in her kennel overnight

- 8am: Get everyone ready for school/daycare (Thaliea stayed home) and bribe them with McDonald's if we can do it quickly (we do... McGriddles for everyone!!!)

- 9am: Get back home and work from home, occasionally switching off my screen so I can let out Phoebe or get something for Thaliea

- 3:30pm: Pick up JoJo

- 5:30pm: Pick up Ezra from his friend's house (he went there after school)

- 5:45pm: Head to Alpine Inn for dinner with some of the men from our small group (and to feed some raccoons!)

- 8pm: Bedtime for EVERYONE (if only it was that simple)

Wednesday:

- 5am: Wake up with a massive migraine but still let out Phoebe because we CAN'T have a repeat of yesterday

- 6:30pm: Wake up again, migraine is still there, and get ready for the day

- 7:30am: The kids are up and it's time to get ready for school

- 8:30am: Everyone off to school, including JoJo to preschool

- 9am: Go back home and try to get some work done, while occasionally letting out the dog

- 2pm: Pick up JoJo

- 4pm: Pick up Ezra and Thaliea

- 4:30pm: Cook dinner while bribing the children with ice cream if everyone does all their chores and homework

- 6:30pm: IT WORKED! Go get ice cream

- 7:30pm: Let's get everyone to bed! 

- 8:45pm: Have a phone call with a ministry partner

Thursday:

- 5am: Did I wake up this time? I assume I did but I really don't know

- 6:30am: Feed the dog. Either I got up the first time or the second time on this one...

- 7:30am: Kids are up and it's time to go!

- 8:15am: Everyone out the door so we can get donuts on the way to school (for those counting at home,that's bribery #3)

- 9am: Back home to play everyone's favorite game, "Work while occasionally letting out the dog!"

- 3:30pm: Pick up JoJo

- 4pm: Pick up Thaliea, Ezra, and Ezra's friend for a playdate

- 5:30pm: Friend heads home and we're off to church small group

- 6:30pm: Tell the kids that if they finish their food, they can have a s'more (#4!)

- 7:30pm: Head home because there's still homework to be done! 

- 8:30pm: Bedtime for the kids

- 9pm: As much cleaning as can get done before Megan gets home, including dishes, laundry, mopping, and cleaning the bathrooms. Many podcast episodes were consumed... 

- 11:30pm: Sleep, blessed sleep

- 12:30am (Friday): Megan comes home and our family is complete again... 

By the numbers, we had 4 briberies, 1 poop emergency, 1 puke emergency, and 7 dog walks, which isn't too bad! Everyone is alive. No one got lost (I'm looking at you, Gus!), and a decent time was had by all... 

Funnily enough, Megan will be out of town for work again next month, so we'll get to do it all over again! Please pray. =0). 

Have an excellent day! 

~Adam 

JoJo Sabbath Rhythms...

Hello, friends! 

Last week I wrote about how becoming a "Dog Dad" has changed some of my daily rhythms. One of the other changes this Fall has been to weekly rhythms, particularly my Sabbath rhythm. This one has some to do with a dog and more to do with a JoJo. 

Both Megan and I take Mondays as a Sabbath. It used to be that we would wake up in the morning, head our separate ways, and be back together for dinner to share about our Sabbath experiences. Of course, that all changed with kids and really changed once they started school. For the past few years, it was one of us taking either the morning or the afternoon and then swapping around lunch time. 

Last year, we tried a new rhythm to try to change the timing a bit. I would get up early and do part of my Sabbath until it was time for the older kids to go to school. Then, Megan would take the older kids to school and JoJo and I would hang out until the early afternoon. Sometimes we'd go to the zoo. Sometimes we'd take the bus to the trampoline park. Sometimes we'd go to the library. Sometimes, we'd just stay at home. Then Megan and I would swap and I'd take the second half of my Sabbath time. It worked out well enough.

However, we had a new wrinkle in the timing of everything when Jonah started pre-school. Added to that, with Phoebe, me getting up earlier to go downstairs and do Sabbath stuff wasn't going to work. Once she heard me, she was going to want to be up. My options were to either get up earlier like it was a work day (not exactly the most restful of options) or get up later and we switch things up. 

The new rhythm seems to be working well. I get up later than I used to (extra sleep? Count me in!) and get the kids (and dog) ready for the day. Megan heads out for her Sabbath as soon as she's up. I take the kids the older kids to school (with JoJo in tow), head home to let out Phoebe one more time, then take JoJo to pre-school. I then have 2 hours to chill before picking up JoJo, grabbing some lunch, and heading home for his "resting time." Megan and I will then switch and I'll have the afternoon.  

Do you know what my favorite part of the new rhythm is? It's not getting up later, although that's great. It's not a more time in the afternoon, although that's also great. It's not even having an extra chunk of time in the late morning while JoJo is at pre-school. It's not the run to Burger King for lunch that JoJo insists we do every week. My favorite part of the day is picking up JoJo from pre-school. 

JoJo's preschool has one door in and one door out so there's a bit of a logjam at pickup. The teachers have all the kids sit on a rug and the parents enter single file to pick up their kids. Usually, I can spot JoJo before he spots me, mainly because he's looking longingly at the other kids around him who are getting picked up by his parents. Those 3 seconds when I see him, say, "JoJo!", he turns towards me, and his face lights up because he knows that he wasn't forgotten and that he's going home, is the highlight of my day. To be loved by your kiddo like that, to be seen as safe and to be happy to be seen, is something that I love and will never get tired of it. 

This new rhythm will just be for the year. After this, JoJo will go to elementary school and his rhythm will change again. But for now, we've got a good thing going and I don't mind it one bit. 

Have an excellent day! 

~Adam

Dog Dad Rhythms...

Hello, friends! 

As you know, this summer we got a tortoise as well as a dog. Phoebe the goldendoodle has been with us for just about 2 months and I've been learning about what it means to be a "dog dad." 

See, when we decided to get Gus and Phoebe, I was fairly certain that Megan and the kids were going to dote all over the dog and that Gus and I would spend a lot of time hanging out by ourselves. Honestly, I was totally fine with that. I'm not antagonistic towards dogs, I'm just not a traditional "dog person." 

The thing that changed things was morning rhythms. Since having kids, I've found myself to be more of a morning person. I like to get up early and do my morning routine (hang out with Jesus, practice Mandarin, exercise, extend my Wordle streak, start work) before the kids are up and the day starts. Pre-dog, I would get up around 5:30 (sometimes I'd let myself sleep in until 6:30), head down to our basement, and come back up around 7ish when I heard the kids (read: JoJo... always JoJo) come out of their rooms. It was a nice rhythms. 

You know what you can't do? You can't sneak past a hungry dog. I learned this when I tried to keep my rhythm but heard the very distinctive whine of a hungry dog who had to go to the bathroom. Of course, I don't want an accident so I let out the dog. But then the dog is awake and my whole morning routine is out the window. 

So, I've had to adjust. There are a few things I've learned how to do to get back my rhythm. 

- Get up earlier. I learned that if Phoebe is awake when the sun is up, she's up. HOWEVER, if I let her out to go to the bathroom when it's still dark outside, she'll go back to sleep when she's done her business. So, now I'm up at 5 when it's still dark and she'll sleep until about 6:30 or so.  

- Give up on work. Getting Phoebe out of her kennel, waiting for her to go to the bathroom, and feeding her take up just enough time for me to not be able to get substantial work done. It's OK. I've come to terms with it. 

- Get better at doing things one handed. My number one job when I'm up with Phoebe in the morning is to make sure that she doesn't make enough noise to wake up anyone else in the family. This is obviously easier said than done, especially since she's recently been convinced that the dog she sees on our TV screen (read: her reflection) is her mortal enemy who must be barked at in order to show dominance. The solution I've found, is belly rubs. If I keep scratching her, she stays chill. That means everything else needs to be done one-handed. 

Phoebe and I have worked out a nice little rhythm in the mornings. Honestly, she's a pretty chill dog until the kids get up and she tries to eat their clothes as they're wearing them. This Dog Dad life isn't one that I would have necessarily chosen for myself, but we've worked out something nice and I don't mind where we are. 

Have an excellent day! 

~Adam